by Hemalatha Mahenthran
Overcoming heartbreak? Not as easy as it sounds! It is a superb slow process which you won’t be better right away. It’s an inevitable part of life. At that point of time, you will feel like the time is still, the people who used to be closed to you is not there anymore to support you and even if you are surrounded by millions of people, you seem to be lonely.
The term heartbreak can be referred as someone who has suffered a failed relationship or loss of a loved one. It can be appeared in various causes from divorce or being dropped by a lover, disappointment, loss of possession or loss of job. Whatever the causes are, the pain of a broken heart can be enormous. The symptoms of "heartbreak" manifest themselves differently in every individual.
Is heartbreak harder for women?
Well, it is hard not only for women but also for men. It doesn’t differentiate itself by gender. It totally depends on the individual. It is an undeniable fact that everyone gets hurt over something in life. But, how do they deal with it especially when she's a woman? Many women find that dealing with a broken heart can be unbearable. But those women who can overcome a heartbreak will grow stronger mentally as time passes by. Women tend to be more emotional. Yeah, so what if we're emotional? When our heart is broken, we cry, we flip out; we call our mothers, sisters or girlfriends. We have this supporting “tool” from every corner of this world.
Have any of us wondered why women can survive heartbreaks one after another?
Yeah, first thing we do is we CRY…that’s all right! That’s how we find a way to express ourselves. It relieves the pain. Many people claim to feel better after a good cry. Whether it's to mourn the end of a close relationship or because of the sheer frustration of a bad day at work, once you come to wipe the tears away, the world can seem like it's been put back together again. Now research has suggested that tears could actually be a way of flushing negative chemicals out of the body and doing you a world of good. Statistically, 88.8% of people feel better after crying.
On average women cry 47 times a year and men a mere 7 (Natasha, 2011). But not all women cry, mostly heal themselves like that. Some of them try their level best to distract their mind by engaging in some other activities. These are the “BEST 15” tried and tested methods that have worked well for different women which was adapted from various articles and blogs.
1) They call their best friend/someone very close to them to share their problems
2) They cry their eyes out... and it works!
3) They seek the help of junk food…chocolate ice-cream tends to be their best friend!
4) Write about their feelings in a journal to work through the breakup/heartaches
5) They watch their favourite movies to divert their minds
6) Some go for yoga classes, dance classes or do some sport activities
7) They clean. Cleaning makes them feel exhausted at the end and it helps to clear their minds
8) Nothing like losing oneself in a great book or books to allow for time to pass and wounds to heal
9) They will try to take up new hobbies
10) Groom themselves. Dress sharp, going to the gym, visiting a spa and eat the right food
11) Meeting new and different people to freshen up their minds
12) Avoid emotional movies or songs
13) Take inventory of what had happened. Know where you are at fault, and deal with it sincerely
14) Take things in a positive way. Be optimistic. There are so much more to go throughout the life
15) Hold in mind that “you are a survivor”. You can survive in any tough and rough situation
Getting over a heart break is so hard! I can’t think of other ways of saying how hard it can be. But, that’s OK…Women are basically known for their strong mental ability and they can adapt in any situation easily. It will take some time for the healing process but it won’t take that long for them to make up their mind and move on to the new phase of their life and retain enthusiasm. Once it is clear in your mind, the way ahead gets simpler. Of all these, at the end of the day we are only seeking for one best thing in life…HAPPINESS!
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