By FiraDee
Sometimes when you are alone, you have no choice but to observe. Observe those around you - from friends to strangers...observe the circumstances of other people, how they react, watch what they do, how they treat other people; how they treat their loved ones, interact with each other - and marriage. A word that I just thought is about two lovebirds finally settling down, happily planning the future together, grow old together and things like that, but mostly people forget, in between, marriage is actually a responsibility, all the things we’ve probably heard before, but what I am sharing here is just my perspective of things.
Marriage - is you being responsible to the other half in terms of general everyday duties and also matters of the heart, which people often forget. You are actually being responsible for the happiness of both you and your partner. You have to work hard to TOLERATE with each other every single day, every step of the way.
And tolerance... is not as easy as it may seem. To some, tolerance may just carry the meaning of ‘ignorance’, so you tolerate in that way, by just ignoring. It could also mean, fight for what you think is right, and hope the other person will just tolerate with your behavior. Tolerance when combine with patience, can also simply mean that you just allow the other the other person to do what they want to, right or wrong, because you can see that it makes the person happy, and hope that in the end, it will all turn out okay. But if something goes wrong, you will be there to tell them; not ‘I told you so’, but to embrace them with the biggest and comforting hug ever. Tolerance is actually what makes or breaks a marriage. And a relationship that lasts, are simply two people that tolerate well with each other, in every little thing, at the same time not sacrificing their own needs along the way.
Trouble will arise, when one tolerates too many things for the other, lose his or her patience or simply just won’t play the ‘tolerate game’ anymore. It will look as if that person is sacrificing too much of him or herself, like a demon that feeds upon their own desires and needs, until they are none and numb. That’s when hate and hurt moves in.
Different people have different level of tolerance, for many different reasons. Not all marriages are perfect from the inside, but it’s the level of tolerance that people have that determines whether the relationship will last a lifetime or otherwise. The key is always to never forget or take whatever you have for granted.
Marriage - is you being responsible to the other half in terms of general everyday duties and also matters of the heart, which people often forget. You are actually being responsible for the happiness of both you and your partner. You have to work hard to TOLERATE with each other every single day, every step of the way.
And tolerance... is not as easy as it may seem. To some, tolerance may just carry the meaning of ‘ignorance’, so you tolerate in that way, by just ignoring. It could also mean, fight for what you think is right, and hope the other person will just tolerate with your behavior. Tolerance when combine with patience, can also simply mean that you just allow the other the other person to do what they want to, right or wrong, because you can see that it makes the person happy, and hope that in the end, it will all turn out okay. But if something goes wrong, you will be there to tell them; not ‘I told you so’, but to embrace them with the biggest and comforting hug ever. Tolerance is actually what makes or breaks a marriage. And a relationship that lasts, are simply two people that tolerate well with each other, in every little thing, at the same time not sacrificing their own needs along the way.
Trouble will arise, when one tolerates too many things for the other, lose his or her patience or simply just won’t play the ‘tolerate game’ anymore. It will look as if that person is sacrificing too much of him or herself, like a demon that feeds upon their own desires and needs, until they are none and numb. That’s when hate and hurt moves in.
Different people have different level of tolerance, for many different reasons. Not all marriages are perfect from the inside, but it’s the level of tolerance that people have that determines whether the relationship will last a lifetime or otherwise. The key is always to never forget or take whatever you have for granted.
We tolerate different things, and one relationship will only work if we are both matched to the exact personality of which they each can tolerate. Doesn’t it sound complicated? Like finding a needle in a haystack? Almost impossible I think. But some lucky ones just do find them. Maybe we should change the term ‘I want to marry you’ to simply,‘I want to tolerate with you for the rest of my life’.
Will that make it simpler and clearer?
Just something to ponder…
This amazing piece of article is written by,
FiraDee
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